It’s been a while since I have blogged & I have been thinking of what to post for a minute or so. What better subject matter than being a twin? After all, it is my favourite talking point.
I have been a twin for 24 years & 10 months (even longer if you count the stay in the womb) and I can’t tell you how many times I have been asked the questions “what’s it like being a twin?” Of course, this is just one question of many!
I’m going to take this opportunity to recall some very familiar Q&A’s:
1) Are you two twins?
Depending on our mood we usually just smile politely with a gentle nod. Although, there has been times we have sarcastically, exlamined “absolutely not – what made you think that?”
2) Are you identical?
Yes, in the sense that we are very similar in looks. I’m talking double takes in the streets, her photos in my baby album, pretending to be one another and making her try on clothes when I can’t be bothered.
No, in the sense that we are fraternal twins (dizygotic) and technically no more alike than individual brothers or sisters born on different dates.
3) Have you ever pretended to be each other?
Yes, to avoid awkward confrontations with people in the street. In maths & science class and once without our say when at 6-8 months I developed my signiture moles above my right eye & friends of the family duplicated them on Emma.
4) Do you feel each other’s pain?
Physically, no. We do share a memory of being in pain. Emma fell of a slide & bust her nose when we were little. I could have sworn it was me being carried around crying my eyes out with a bleeding nose & black eyes but mother confirms, 100%, that was Emma.
Emotionally, yes, this isn’t a “twin thing” though. You try feeling nothing when you see somebody you love showing sadness or beeming from ear to ear with happiness.
5) Do your boyfriends mix you up?
6) How do people tell you apart?
Quite easily, once the initial “oh my word your so alike” “even your mannerisms” has passed, people get to know us and realise we are actually completely different.
If that fails, I have 2 very distinctive moles, quite artistically placed above my right brow, I don’t mind titling my head to help with the confusion.
7) What’s it like being a twin?
We usually respond – ” what’s it like not being a twin?”
8) Do you have the same friends?
We have always shared the constant friends we have now and have had for a very long time. That being said, I have friends she doesn’t know and vice versa, this is has happened more so now we live apart.
9) Who is the oldest?
10) … By how long?
11) Do twins run in your family?
Nope. We are the very first. I hope not the last, I think everybody should be a twin & I would love a set of my own (one day). Twins have an all time best friend for life no if, buts or maybes.
12) Do you fight?
When we lived together – We fought like cat & dog 50% of the time. Constantly bickering, moaning and whinging at each other. The other 50% she would make me combust with laughter.
We now live apart, so not so much. That being said if we spend longer than 12 hours together the catty comments return. Sharing a womb doesn’t mean we don’t get sick of each other when in close proximity.
13) Who is the evil twin?
In school, it was me. Emma was a goody goody, shiney shoes & her shirt tucked in. Me? I wore eyeliner & skirts up my bum. I also have darker green eyes which was once pointed out to me by the popular boy in school – that that’s what makes me look evil. (Thanks.)
Now, I think we’re both lovely & angelic.
14) Do you dress a like?
Not intentionally, should we say Emma is “inspired” by my wardrobe and I often notice her in a similar outfit following previous meet ups.
We have also donned matching outfits for the fun runs we have taken part in this year.
15) Do you like being a twin?
I absolutely love it. I think it’s unfair that it isn’t normal for everybody to have one. #bestthingever.
Do you know any twins? Do they have similar FAQ’s?